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How to Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You Emotionally
Well… we all know how incredibly difficult this could be. It isn’t easy. In fact, it can feel impossible. Please don’t run for the ‘X’ at the top right of the screen, but bear with me. I know this is not the best way to start off, but I want to reiterate how challenging this can be. I’ve forgiven a lot of people, and a lot of people have forgiven me. Jesus taught us to forgive, and most of us should know this by now. He is a prime example of what all of us should be. Even outside of that though, it’s healthy. How do you feel right now? Angry? Depressed? Frustrated? Of course. It’s not doing any good for anyone. You’re creating a tense situation for both yourself and the people around you. I know a few people out there can keep everything separate and in check, but I think a majority of the people out there will probably involve someone in a negative way who doesn’t deserve it. I think most who have been under a tremendous amount of stress can relate to this, and may have yelled at a loved one or said something they didn’t mean.[/fusion_text][fusion_text]
[/fusion_text][fusion_text]You need to remove yourself from the situation, analyze yourself, and realize that you are far from perfect. We all are. I bring this up because plenty of people have forgiven you. I’m sure of it. Now it’s time for you to forgive someone. I guarantee that if it doesn’t feel great at first, it will. Sometimes it can take quite a long time for an emotional wound to heal. The same goes for any type of physical injury. The quicker you forgive, the quicker you can heal.
As I mentioned earlier, Jesus is a prime example of what you should be. He taught us to treat others as you want to be treated. Don’t you want to be forgiven as well? This is a prime example of the golden rule. If you want to be forgiven, forgive. He knows we are imperfect, but He loves us anyways. How many times has He forgiven us? Countless. It’s a number that some of the most brilliant minds probably couldn’t fathom. Jesus has forgiven you, and now it’s time to forgive this person.
Lets say this person betrayed you in one way or another. Trusting him or her at this point would be a bit foolish. Lift that burden of anger and hatred and forgive them. Just remember what they did, that you forgave them, and move on from there. Also, try not to put that person in a position for them to do something like that again. Sadly, some people can’t help but do selfish, inconsiderate acts. Regardless, we are all brothers and sisters and that person still needs to be loved. You know what they are capable of, so keep that in mind if a similar situation leading to this outcome arises. Hopefully, one day, that person will learn the error of their ways if this experience hasn’t shown them.
Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven: [Luke 6:37] The Bible can be cryptic at times, but I don’t think anything could be more forward. There is way to much at stake to hold a grudge against someone. But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. [Matthew 6:15] This is something we need to remember above all else. Above all, you should be doing this for God. He wants you to forgive.[/fusion_text][fusion_text]
[/fusion_text][fusion_text]Forgiveness is going to be a recurring theme because, as a Christian, I think it is one of the most important virtues to have. This is coming from someone who has held grudges for a very, very long time. The reason I wanted to mention this is forgiveness is great, but sometimes the results aren’t exactly what you hoped. Yes, the emotional wound will heal, but there are usually additional results which can be either good or bad. One individual I’ve forgiven in the past I was hoping to create a friendship with. The person made a mistake and I acknowledged it and forgave, but way too late. I waited and waited. It was a terrible mistake. This person I would have liked to have gotten to know better made a mistake, so I held a grudge for many years, and that was the end of any chance for our friendship to get anywhere. I helped heal both of our emotional wounds, but the end result wasn’t exactly what I wanted it to be. Don’t get your hopes up. Just pray, forgive, and pray… in that order. ;)[/fusion_text][/fusion_builder_column][/fusion_builder_row][/fusion_builder_container]
